Friday, September 25, 2015

Breaking Through and Prioritizing JOY!

I can’t believe we’re nearing October! Here in hot and sunny southern California it feels like eternal summer. I’m using fans to sleep at night and swimming in a warm, inviting 76-degree ocean before breakfast!

Globally and personally we’re in the middle of another intense time of change, marked by an upcoming full moon lunar eclipse this Sunday. This one’s in the pioneering fire sign of Aries. Aries is also known for being impulsive and self-centered, so you might be wanting what you want now or experiencing this from others around you. 

The eclipse is opposite Libra, though, which is all about fairness, balance and win-win. Beauty is Libra’s aim so if you can focus on what’s good in the other and how you can both be happy, you’ll navigate well. The key is being honest and as John Mayer sings so compellingly, “Say what you need to say.” With as much compassion and grace as you can muster, I would add, but also not hiding the real truth that your heart needs to express. Walking on eggshells is codependent, constricting and not real love anyway. Sharing honestly is the way to a more satisfying and intimate bond. Be vulnerable, sandwich anything that the other might take as criticism with appreciation, and you might even experience a breakthrough. 

Full moons are for releasing pent up emotions so dance by the glow of the moon and let go of any gunk that is squelching your joy! I love full moon rituals for releasing. Write down all that you’re letting go of and burn your paper outside in a metal bowl or bonfire. Then celebrate the new beginnings that you’ve made room for and thank Spirit for putting the details in place for you! 

If you can remember that the changes that are happening are for you and not against you, it will help immensely. If you pause to pray or meditate, you’ll be guided. It’s amazing how often we forget, myself included, to breathe deeply and ask Spirit for assistance. Even better, to simply hand the burden over to your higher power and let the experienced pilot fly the plane! 

Having moved to southern California with a clear hearts desire to live in a town that has a one per cent vacancy rate and an average one bedroom apartment price of $3000 a month, I’ve been using my book’s Freeway Prayers exercise a lot. Driving around in 90 degree heat house hunting in my little red Honda, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve shouted out loud, “Okay God, you take this! I can’t do it myself! Please find me a lovely home. This is your job not mine!”   And then I breathe a sigh of relief. Yes, I am the one to have a clear vision for what I want, to ask for help and follow up on ads, leads and intuitive nudges, but figuring this out in my head is a complete dead end. The same is true for whatever you’ve been working so hard to solve with your intellect! 

The cool thing about being in midst of change is that in this “in between time,” we’re more open to insights and messages from the Divine. Here’s the clear wisdom I’ve been getting: in order to keep my vibration high and stay happy, I must prioritize joy. Imagine that, prioritize JOY! Completely opposite of what most of us were taught in our homework-before-play and stop-daydreaming-and-just-do-something childhoods, right? 

Of course joy is why I moved here in the first place, and why any of us choses to do anything, hopefully, as joy is a solid foundation for real happiness. Nothing makes me happier than long walks at the ocean with my feet splashing in the water and my camera in hand, capturing the sun-sparkled waves and colors of the sky as I go.  So I’ve been walking on the beach morning and evening and I’ve taken thousands of wave and sunset pictures since I arrived. Working with my clients also brings me deep satisfaction (and JOY!) and I am so grateful for the anchor of helping others live their passions as I navigate this transition. 

I’ll leave you with one other insight I’ve been getting: don’t settle. Be willing to pass up good (or sometimes more like barely passable) for great. What you love, what your heart wants most may seem like a pipe dream but that’s only because in this moment, it’s far away. Bring it closer. Feel it. Visualize it, draw it, dance it. Let it come alive because your true desire’s main purpose is to bring you more alive.

As Howard Thurman’s exquisite advice goes: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what brings you alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is more people who have come alive.” 

Don’t try to do alone. Prioritize your joy. Stop settling and say yes to what brings you alive. You’re worth it. You deserve it. This is what you came here for. 

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Tuesday, September 8, 2015

A Lightening into Forward Movement

I love astrology as a metaphor for life. It provides great insight into the challenges that change brings and allows us to navigate major shifts with more acceptance and grace. We were conditioned to believe that astrology is what's printed in your local paper's sun sign horoscope column, but it's actually a complex science that cultures across the globe have been studying and applying to better their lives for thousands of years. The good news is that you don't have to adopt it as a belief system in order to benefit from it's insight and wisdom. You need only be open and observe whether what you learn resonates with your inner wise self. I always say, take what uplifts your heart and leave the rest! 

Astrologically we've had a recent period where Venus was retrograde. Venus represents the divine feminine within us, which, whether female or male, is our ability to receive, to be open to life's ever-changing motion, to live in tune with our heart's desires and to love and value who we are intrinsically regardless of what's happening in our work or personal lives. Here's my take on the positive shifts upon us now.

Now that Venus has gone direct, it feels like there's more breathing room and the pace is picking up a bit. We've been in a somewhat inward time as we've navigated issues of self-worth, what we value, where we are limiting ourselves, and patterns of self sacrifice, fantasy or denial. The atmosphere feels a bit lighter to me. New possibilities along with the motivation to act on them are flowing in. Still you may feel some turbulence like the strong ocean tides we've been having here in southern California. Plant your feed solidly in the earth and let the warmth of Venus wrap her arms around you in loving embrace. You can ride out the rougher waves by remembering that all that is meant to be for you is already yours. In other words, nothing that is intended for you can be taken away.Venus in Leo is generous. Open your heart wide to receive!

If you'd like help navigating changes kicking up the waters of your life right now, you can check out my coaching services pages. To schedule an informational coaching consult with me, send me an email.  


Friday, August 28, 2015

Full Moon Clearing, Compassion and Creativity!

Happy full moon in Pisces! I write to you around the new and full moon times because I’ve come to realize how powerful these cycles are. Following the moon’s cycles may seem esoteric but it’s actually a down-to-earth and very practical tool for wading through the muck of uncertainty and creating a life you love. 

Have you noticed that as the moon becomes fuller you begin to feel a sense of hopeful expectation? That’s because we are nearing a time of completion and we can feel this in our bodies even if we’re not conscious of it. Something we’ve been working toward is about to come to fruition or a situation, pattern or relationship is ending. What’s happening for you?

During this full moon in Pisces, you may feel more connected to your emotional waters, your dreams and the mystical, unseen realms than usual. Following your heightened creative impulses and diving deeply into your imagination would likely feel especially satisfying right now. New visions, solutions or the desire to forgive someone who has hurt you could surface “out of the blue.”

For example, my dreams have been intense, clear and insightful lately, and yesterday I cried a bunch of tears in the middle of my yoga session for no obvious reason. In a word, this moon is supporting us to release. We’re being prepared for the next new thing, a new more empowered self even, and for this we need our full power and energy. Which brings to mind lyrics I love by Rickie Byars Beckwith:

I release and I let go
I let the Spirit run my life
and my heart is open wide
yes I’m only here for God (Love)
No more struggle
no more strife
in my faith I see the light
I am free in the Spirit
yes I’m only here for God (Love) 

What are you ready to release? This week, themes arising in my coaching sessions have been about releasing guilt, forgiveness and having compassion for self and others. There seems to be a strong desire to let go of burdens from the distant past (childhood wounds and primary relationships especially) and release grudges and resentments to lighten the emotional load. We are getting ready to sail freely into new waters.

Pisceans are famous for taking on guilt when they’re done nothing to earn it--and for attracting people into their lives who are good at  heaping it on and making them feel insignificant and small. So if you can relate, and I certainly can, this is your moon! Use the bright circle of light in the dark night sky as your archetypal permission-giving goddess who is shining down on you, enveloping you with her unconditionally loving glow and urging you to set yourself free. Bust out of the guilt-built prison walls and declare yourself worthy of the life you really want! 

Just after I released all those tears this week I had an aha moment. It occurred to me that the times I’ve withheld love from others because I felt hurt, betrayed or abandoned, I was also withholding love from myself. I was cutting myself off from the very healing that I needed in order to feel cherished, loved and accepted. You can’t be angry or vengeful toward another without having it affect you as well. This is the truth of us all being One. When you close someone out of your heart, even “for good reason,” you also close your truest, most loyal self out of your heart. Wow. 

I’m not saying go hang out with people who hurt you. Your time and self are precious. Self-loving boundaries are essential. I’m suggesting that you be a mermaid or merman and take a dive down to see what within you is ready for purifying and cleansing. Splash in the creative ocean of your wildest, richest, most fulfilling vision for a great life. Let your inner child play, dance, express, cry, moan and above all get free! 

In the words of Cat Stevens,

Well, if you want to sing out, sing out
And if you want to be free, be free
'Cause there's a million things to be
You know that there are

And if you want to live high, live high
And if you want to live low, live low
'Cause there's a million ways to go
You know that there are

You can do what you want
The opportunity's on
And if you can find a new way
You can do it today
You can make it all true
And you can make it undo
you see ah ah ah
its easy ah ah ah
You only need to know

And I would add … you only need to know … the truth of who you really are.  You are free!  

Enjoy this full moon releasing time!

Thursday, August 27, 2015

Now or Never

The courage it takes to follow your heart often feels way beyond what you can possibly muster. The doubts and the doubters hold sway. But as artists of our lives we must allow ourselves to follow our soul's callings or risk withering in the mediocrity of playing it safe. The quote below affirms and buoys me. I hope it lifts you too. 

“Every one of us is called upon, perhaps many times, to start a new life. A frightening diagnosis, a marriage, a move, loss of a job...And onward full-tilt we go, pitched and wrecked and absurdly resolute, driven in spite of everything to make good on a new shore. To be hopeful, to embrace one possibility after another--that is surely the basic instinct...Crying out: High tide! Time to move out into the glorious debris. Time to take this life for what it is.”
~ Barbara Kingsolver, High Tide in Tucson: Essays from Now or Never

Please take one tiny step in the direction of your dream, of whatever is calling to you, of that which infuses you with new, invigorating energy. For me it's the ocean. It's been decades since I've lived near the sea, and I am newly home again. Setting my feet on the wet sand, feeling the pure white foamy salt water gently wash over my ankles fills me with complete and utter joy. Inside I am shouting, "Yes! This feels so good! This is what I want!"

What makes your heart happy? Just one small step ...  

Thursday, June 4, 2015